LifeOps: Travel Buddy Conversation Starters

I love travel and I really treasure sharing the experiences with friends. But travel is unpredictable, and group travel is even trickier because of differing expectations that can create friction.

To counter that, about 15 years ago, when I was traveling a lot, I began developing a personal framework to align with my travel buddies about what is most important for a great trip together. This list is not a rigid checklist but a series of conversation starters with the underlying idea of defining and aligning on what “positive” means to us all.

I’ve also realized that these conversation starters are a great example of optimizing life activities and operations, what I call LifeOps, to define what is important, remove friction, align with other humans or agents on positive outcomes and make a good thing better.

Before I ever used any form of AI - and my assistants were actual humans - this approach has helped me optimize life every day, and I’d like to share this mindset of LifeOps, starting with Travel Buddy Conversation Starters.

The core criteria

• Luggage: are we carrying-on (strongly preferred), shipping (magical), or checking (not preferred)?

• Be willing to use international roaming data & calling when required

• If luggage is opened at a security check point, it can be easily closed again

• Goldilocks the airport arrival time - no rushing or waiting, “just right”

• Effectively navigate airplane and airport movements.

• Have the necessary batteries, cables, and adapters for Electronics

• Transparent about what countries you cannot or will not visit

Balancing value, time, and memories

• Are we splurging on a few key experiences, or are we hunting for the best value everywhere?

• If someone has to back out or bail on a plan, how do we fairly manage the non-refundable costs?

• Understand the calculus for renting a car (flexibility, time).

• Be OK sacrificing comfort standards as required

• Value hunting encouraged, but knows the value of time, especially during a trip

Pace, food, and adventure

• Are you flexible with meal-sharing and open-minded about indulging during travel?

• Will eat novel foods and street food

• Capitalizes on unique local experiences

• Sense of adventure (looks for new things)

• Ability to wake up early or stay up late as required

• Comfortable with and/or instigator of spontaneity

• Willingness to dance

• Flexibility for different types of beverages.

• What is your go-to karaoke song? (I know this one is ridiculous, but it's a fun way to ask: are you willing to be silly and try new things, and it helps prevent karaoke-collisons)

Vibe

• Are you comfortable suggesting changing plans but will commit if not mutually agreed to?

• Appropriate and positive behavior with service staff

• Ability to entertain self.

• If a flight is missed, it isn’t the end of the world

• Ability to adapt behaviors to local social norms

• Nightlife doesn’t ruin the day

• No unauthorized sharing (social, verbal, or other methods)

• Transparency about commitments in destinations (friends, family)

• No standing commitments that would limit group activities unless mutually agreed to

Skills

• What novel skills do you have that requires minimal or readily available equipment (e.g. close-up magic)?

• Advanced street smarts (no flashing cash, leaving bags, etc.)

• Solid travel agent (flights and hotels) booking skills

• Speaking multiple languages

• Ask worldly relatives or close friends to provide suggestions

• Avoid excessive wardrobe changes.

• Loyalty program status for Hotels, Airlines, and Car Rentals

• Should we use Companion airfares?

• Good entertainment selection and availability

• Has the necessary tech equipment (e.g., HDMI adaptors, chargers, …)

• Have range and know when to suit up or down

• Knows basic geography

I did not park this cat between two overwater villas.